While doing a course assignment recently we were asked to rate our fun levels. We had to rate between 1 and 10 (10 being highest) how much fun we felt we had in our life at present. I thought about it and rated it a 4. I had rated it so low because I had looked at my life the way it is and the way it was and I felt that I didn’t do much these days due to having toddler twins.
We were then asked why we rated it the way we did and what could we do to change it. This made me think about my rating and it actually made me look at my situation differently. I suddenly realised my fun levels are far higher than 4. They are actually a 10 because I constantly have fun in my life. My children make me laugh every day. It makes me smile when I see them interact and they melt my heart when I see them hugging each other.
The problem was I was judging my fun levels on my old life and I was feeling hard done by because I couldn’t do a lot of the things I used to consider fun. When I actually sat back and looked at what I now consider fun I realised it wasn’t going shopping, drinking and clubbing it is now playing with my children. It is about getting those precious evenings when they fall asleep early and having time out with my husband. It is watching them do something for the first time and feeling so proud of them. It is about sitting on the floor with them and having them giggle and jump all over me and watch them happily play around me.
What I used to consider fun doesn’t actually interest me anymore. I still love to meet up with my friends, go out for meals, go to the cinema and all the normal grown up stuff but it doesn’t give me the same feeling of fun that it used to.
Up until now I thought my life had become boring but that is far from true. It may sound like a cliché but the twins have opened up my life and completed it. They keep me busy and they exhaust me. Some days are amazing and I feel on top of the world. Other days are excruciating and all I want to do is cry but the love they have generated in me is incredible and I wouldn’t change a thing.
It is amazing how looking at something from a different perspective can change everything. Here I was feeling resentful at times and mourning a life that no longer existed as if it was a bad thing. When honestly it was actually a life that I had outgrown and didn’t want any more but yet I was still judging todays results by this old life and therefore missing out on so much. I was feeling lost and resentful instead of embracing the change and loving the life that I had chosen.
It is hard to change your way of thinking but when you do, you open yourself up to a happier, healthier and more positive life. I now laugh at myself for thinking that I was missing out on fun when I was actually surrounded in it all along.
Sometimes is it can be difficult to see what is right in front of you when we looking at it from a navigate mind. It is only when we open up to the possibility that looking at a situation from a more positive perspective can actually deliver completely different results.
My rating went from a 4 to a 10 just because I decided to look at the same situation differently.
If there are things in your life that you aren’t happy with maybe you are looking at it from the wrong angle. Remember changing your outlook can change everything.